Love is a choice

Love, or should I say 'loving someone' is a choice. Out of all the many suitors you had, you CHOSE to be with the person you are with now. The common saying that 'love is blind' does not ring true at all in my books. Love is something you actively, consciously DO. You choose to love somebody, and you have to keep making that choice daily in order sustain the relationship. I believe in relationships, and I believe in marriage. When a couple first get together, there are simple things that attract and keep them together. Each person puts their best foot forward in order to impress the other, and in the hope of making sure the other person chooses them over all the other possible partners they could possibly have. Once that choice has been made and they agree to BE in a relationship, they relax. They let down their guard and begin to reveal their inner self. The more they get to know each other, the more they realize how similar they are in certain areas, and how different they are in others. What may have seemed 'cute' in the initial stage quickly becomes drab and overdone as the relationship progresses even further. By the time they are married, the jokes that were politely laughed at, hobbies that interest was feigned in, all become a thing of the past. It's like once you 'get your man/woman' you can stop working so hard at pleasing them and making them choose you. I put it to you that this is actually just the very beginning. 'Getting that person' is just the foundation, 'keeping them' constitutes the building blocks of the marriage/relationship. We choose to do things that make the other person happy, which in turn makes us happy. We choose to make that person happy, we choose to trust them and we choose to believe they have our best interests at heart. Love is a choice, the day we stop making the choice to 'be in love' the relationship begins to die and eventually withers into betrayal, infidelity and eventually separation. I for one, I'm choosing to be happy, I'm choosing to love regardless...