Relationship 101

What is it about relationships that makes people do silly things? If you have to break your neck to get into a relationship, surely you will break your neck to stay in one. If you have to strive so hard to 'get' that person, surely the whole lifespan of your relationship will be in strife..? If you think your life depends solely on the success of your relationship, then it will. If after you have struggled, and fought, and tried too hard and bent over backwards and ended up in the relationship you thought you wanted, don't be too surprised it's full of hurt and pain and not one full day of happiness to write home about. A word for the ladies: it's NOT complicated, and it's not meant to be difficult, and it's not meant to be a struggle. You are not supposed to 'go after' a man, he is supposed to woo you, win you over, convince you. Let him do the hard work, let a man be a man. Don't do his job for him and then turn around and expect him to be a complete gentleman. If he hasn't asked for your hand in marriage (preferably with your consent, from your parents), put a ring on your finger and walk you down the aisle, he is NOT your husband. If you happen to be sharing your bed with him at this point, he is not even your man, you are nothing but his bedwarmer, a bedmate, private laundromat, personal chef and in my opinion, doormat. Welcome to your reality! Okay, so I am ranting... It's just that I've heard many a sob story in the past few weeks and it beats me to admit that the foolishness lies squarely at the ladies' doorsteps. Yes, I said it. They were not wise with their choices, and are paying dearly for it. With permission, I will disect the relationship(s) in detail in the next couple of days, so watch this space...